Do some things put you into a rage, when you reflect upon them from the perspective of several years on?
The subject of today’s rage, such as it is, is the memory of my poor ex-husband’s unholy air-horn snoring…and of his S.O.B. doctor who patted me on my little head and said don’t worry, dearie, ALL middle-aged men’s wives complain about their snoring.
Right, Doc.
DXH lost a job with a major regional law firm because he could not stay awake all day to do his work. Presumably when he was (apparently) awake, he must not have been able to focus on the issues in front of him.
No kidding.
One day one of his partners came to me and complained: DXH actually fell asleep at his desk.
Uh huh.
I went to a doctor of my own and said the guy was snoring so violently it was impossible to sleep in the same room with him — or even in a room down the linked hallway.
He patted me on my pretty little head and went There, there, dear. ALL middle-aged men’s wives complain about their snoring.
Yeah. No kidding: that is exactly what I was told. Honking the ceiling off was a normal manly trait.
Years have gone by since then.
We’ve been divorced for years — partly because, strangely enough, I did need to sleep, not a possibility during the nighttime hours in that house.
Would I blame the poor reckless, sexist doctor for the divorce?
Well, no.
But I’d venture that he sure as he!! didn’t help things. Maybe, just MAYBE if I’d been able to get a decent night’s sleep in that house, I might still be there.
Pisseth me off, unto this day.
It sounds like your ex had sleep apnea. Was he ever diagnosed?
Yes, eventually…many days late and many dollars short. I was out the door by then: New Wife managed to wrangle him into a competent doctor and also to bring the obvious symptoms to the guy’s attention.
I do hope they’re both sleeping a lot better these days! 😀