Over at A Gai Shan Life, Revanche is climbing back from her recent shocking loss and, I suppose, from the equally shocking (potentially) good news. Resonating off a theme launched by eemusings, she lists several things she’s grateful for and asks readers to join in.
Just now, I must say, I’m finding it difficult to evince much gratitude.
The modern medicine that recently has made Revanche’s life more comfortable has disrupted my life Big Time. I’ve been cut up, half-healed, infected, bloated with hematoma, ruptured and bleeding, in pain, sickened by drugs, and waiting to be cut up again since the end of June, and whether Dr. P manages to “get it all” on her next fishing expedition or whether she has to lob the boob off altogether, the nightmare is not going to end much before the middle of December. If the surgery ends with success (heh…) on October 15, I will then have to heal up again — a month or so — and then be subjected to at least three or four weeks of radiation therapy, which will be followed by some weeks of debilitating fatigue. And God only knows how long it will take to get over that!
The longer the mess goes on, the more evident it becomes that the disruption, pain, and distress were utterly unnecessary, the result of massive overtreatment of women’s breast issues institutionalized within our healthcare system. As each day passes, I learn how many more women have gone through some or all of this ordeal. The number is huge, many more than the one in eight who are said to develop breast cancer over the course of a lifetime. That is because women who do not have and probably will never have breast cancer are being subjected to the same treatment they would get if they did have cancer: mutilating surgeries, risk-fraught radiation therapy, and chemotherapy, all in the name of prophylaxis.
Sorry. I don’t feel grateful for that at all. Yes, I’m glad I don’t have cancer, but I very much doubt that an extremely indolent growth that, if you believe Dr. P on the rate at which these things expand, has resided harmlessly in my body for a good ten or fifteen years, would ever have developed into cancer. And if it did, it could have been treated then, in exactly the same way it’s being treated now — only for an actual reason.
I’m grateful this happened while the stock market is up, so I can take money out of retirement savings without totally raping what little remains of my future. Like unto “grateful it isn’t cancer when it clearly was not cancer, is not cancer, and probably never would have become cancer,” that’s a pretty piss-poor target of gratitude. Gee, I’m so glad I had plenty of money to be taken away from me pointlessly by doctors, hospitals, cancer centers, household help, pool help, yard help, dog help.
I’m grateful my business partner was here to cover for me. I’d have lost my shirt three ways from Sunday if she weren’t picking up my work. As it is, I’m probably going to lose one lucrative account, because that project simply cannot be done without my contribution, and I’m too sick to do it. The plan to expand The Copyeditor’s Desk into indie publishing is down in flames. I can’t even get my act together to build the website Jesse established for it, much less actually do any work.
I’m grateful my son has kindly taken uncountable hours of time off work to drag me back and forth to surgery after surgery. But I’m not the slightest bit grateful that I had to ask him to do that, and that I have no other resource to take the pressure off him.
I’m grateful that the corgi breeder who charged me $1,200 for Ruby will probably let me return her, now that I’m too sick to take care of her and that she’s decided to turn Cassie into a doormat. No refund, of course; nor will there be refunds for the astonishing amounts of cash outlay on vet bills, special UTI dog food, dog gates, dog crates, dog leashes, dog collars, dog harness, the wrought-iron gate to keep her out of the pool, and on and on and on and on. I’m grateful my son has taken her off my hands for a couple of weeks. I’m not grateful at all that I’m going to have to take her back where she will be kenneled for heaven knows how long, and that I probably would have had to do so even if the boob fiasco had never happened.
I’m grateful the weather is cooling a little. And that there are no disclaimers to that one.
So… Gratitude? Mixed. Very mixed. Tepid, one might say.

Bye, bye, lully, lullay.




