Coffee heat rising

Hiking to Pretoria…

Well…to Dogtoria, actually. Ruby and I just got back from a seemingly endless trek around the’Hood, not only all over the interior regions but up and down the east and south main drags. Traipsing traipsing traipsing.

Neither of the two lawyers I’d consider engaging were in their offices…not surprising, considering that this is a Sunday. 😀 Tomorrow I must take off into the urban wilderness and see if either of these guys will talk with me. Not about anything drastic…just quotidian stuff like copyright and ownership deeds and such-like.

At this point, I want to review  my will, to be sure that M’hijito  will get everything I’d like him to have after I croak over. That would be…everything I have. And that’s a fair amount, actually: investments, real estate, on and on and on. I want this stuff to transfer smoothly to him, without any hassle.

And with my beloved long-time lawyer consigned to the Other World (how dare he croak over!), we need to get a new attorney in place and set to go for M’hijito with a minimum of headaches and tax problems.

Tomorrow I’ll call Dear Ex-Husband (in his heyday one of the top corporate lawyers in the region) and see if he can aim me at someone who will get everything firmly and smoothly in place.

Meanwhile… Yes: the ‘Hood…  

The piles of apartments to the west of our environs are…mmmm….possibly not going in the direction one would like. They’re getting old. Rents must have come down, one surmises: the apparent quality of the residents (as seen from afar) is nothing like what it used to be.

So that puts the ‘Hood right on the border of a slummifying district.

And that makes this ‘Hoodie right nervous.

Seriously: I don’t like the look of it, and I kinda think I should sell the shack and move into a more credibly stable neighborhood, one likely to hold its value until after the Kid inherits his share of it. But before doing that, I need to make sure M’jihito’s interests are already protected.

Oh well.  We shall see. Eventually. 

Inna Minnit…

Oook…squeak! {pace pace paceWhimper! Oook! 

Dog wants out????

In a minnit, Dawg!

Get up off duff, stumble to the kitchen door, fling it open for Her Majesty…

Queen walks around in a circle. Strolls through the kitchen, ambles down the hallway, and heads for her nest under the back bathroom toilet.

Peer outside…

Water is POURING off the roof. Nooo, it’s not raining and hasn’t been raining in weeks. The water is leaking out of the air-conditioner, which clearly is calling out for an expensive repair job.

{sigh} Try to phone air-conditioning dude. Can’t find his number. Call the neighbor, who also hires the same guy. No answer. NATCHERLY: Today is Sunday!

Leave word.

**

Ain’t this loverly? I used to drive through this intersection every time I went out to the Great Desert University, thereinat to teach the young cuties who live in said neighborhood.

What a place we live in!

Every now and again, I contemplate the possibility of selling the Funny Farm and moving someplace safer. But…but…??????  Where on EARTH would that be?

Wherever there be humans, that place is not safe.

Get AC folks on the phone. They’ll send someone out here…whenever. That obviates my walking to the grocery store, which I needed to do…right now. 

But as you know, if I dast to pull any such stunt, that will deliver AC Dude to the front door, right now. 

****

Meanwhile, we wait and we wait and we wait and we wait and we…no sign of AC Dude. Well: not surprising. Forhevvinsake, it’s SUNDAY. Of course the guy doesn’t want to come flying over here at my beck and call.

The leak has stopped. Maybe I should call off the repair dude.

That will cause the leak to start up again, right?

Y’know…moments like this make the idea of moving into an old-folkerie like the Beatitudes look good.

Almost.

How can I count the ways I do not feel like sitting here (and sitting here and sitting here and sitting here) waiting for an AC guy to show up on freaking SUNDAY, f’rgodsake.

Hmmmm…  Temps are supposed to drop into the (very!) low 50s tonight. That will chill off the house…uhm…handsomely.

On the other hand, we have only a 4% chance of rain. So as long as no water falls out of the sky, a cold house will be…tolerable, I suppose.

Maybe I should call off AC Dude until tomorrow. Hm. Of course, there’s no guarantee he WILL show up tomorrow. If he doesn’t, then we’ll have two days (maybe three) of crisp temps in the house.

****

Toooo late! Call them on the phone: the poor guy is on his way.

The puddle out there has almost dried up.

For. Pete’s Sake!

******

Hmmm…. 

Look ye here:
https://ancestors.familysearch.org/en/KWV3-T2S/olive-catherine-getten-1891-1979

This little squib from Ancestors.com claims my mother’s mother — my supposed grandmother — died in 1979. That would have made her 88 when she died.

Uh huh.

My mother told me that she, as a teenager, attended her mother (Olive) on Olive’s deathbed. That she watched Olive die. And that she saw Olive’s body carted off in a hearse.

WTF?

Who was storyin’ there???

Either my mother made up a story and lied her way through it as she delivered it to me…

…or…

Her California family (put THAT in scare quotes!) lied to her in order to get her out of Olive’s hair.

My mother was Olive’s illegitimate child. After a court fight, custody of my (then-infant) mother was awarded to the New York father’s family, and she was largely brought up on her paternal grandparents’ dirt farm in the boondocks of upstate New York.

As you can imagine, in those conditions life expectancy did not normally extend into the 80s, as it does today.

Her grandmother — her father’s mother, the one who lived in the sticks in New York — died of diabetes at a fairly young age.

Since it was considered improper for a single man to live alone, unchaperoned, with a young girl, my mother was then sent to the California relatives.

Meanwhile, her own chippie mother (as the story is told) f*cked her way into a roaring case of uterine cancer, which supposedly carried her away when she was in her 30s. By then my mother was lodging with the California set. And she said she saw the woman die and be transported off down the road in a hearse.

Quite the little tale, isn’t it?

And it becomes more tale-like when indications that Olive did not die when my mother said she did.  Or…uhm…thought she did.

Did my mother lie about Olive’s death?

Why would she do that? A reasonable explanation would be that she never wanted to see the woman again and that she surely did NOT want her daughter to see the chippie woman.

hmmmm

Does that make sense? We spent ten years overseas, in Saudi Arabia, where it was mightily unlikely that Olive would surface and come back to haunt.

And my parents retired to Sun City, Arizona…where they could easily have NOT invited dear Olive to visit.

Yeah. Those are significant parts of the story that do NOT make sense.

Why do I have the worst feeling that Olive did not die when my mother said she died?

Why do I sense that my mother’s august family lied to her about Olive’s (non-)death?

If Olive lived until 1979…well! That was the year I completed the Ph.D. and the year my son — her grandson — was born. I wonder if she knew either of those little factoids about her family history.

The two most logical explanations: Either my mother’s family lied to her about Olive’s (non)demise, or my mother, knowing Olive was still kickin’, lied to me.

do remember one time when my Aunt Gertrude, who was Olive’s sister, was visiting our house in Sun City and the subject of the family history came up…the subject of Olive’s alleged death, we might say.

Gertrude got the strangest look on her face as my mother recited the tale of Olive’s (alleged?) death and the removal of her body from the home, carted away in a hearse. And then we have the report of her at the site above, still kickin’ until 1979.

It raises two interesting questions, both of them probably unanswerable:

* Did my mother know that Olive didn’t die of cancer, that fateful croaking-over day?

* Did Olive know she had a grandson?

Well…there’s a third question: How evil can ya get? 

Another Night of the Sh!theads…

BAM!
      BAM!
            BAM!
                  BAM!

The local sh!theads are out in force this evening, playing with their fireworks (most of them illegally smuggled in from Mexico) and scaring the bedoodles out of the dog.

Idiots!

Ohhh well…sounds like the li’l darlin’s ran out of ammunition. They’ve pretty well quit now.

What a bunch of jerks!

It’s not very late, though: hafta hand them that much. Only about 8:45.

O’course, that implies the jerks are kids, for whom some even more jerkish adult purchased the fireworks.

What IS the matter with people?

Women and Terror

Loafing late in bed of a Friday morning (nya nya nyaaa! I don’t hafta go to work!!!), I find myself wondering about a peculiar behavior of my mother’s. She was scared, y’know.

Not just scared. But absolutely fukkin’ TERRORIZED. All the time. Any time she was alone in the house. Any time after dark.

One evening she came down to our house in Phoenix’s middle-class, rather boring Encanto district, having decided to spend the night. So we pass a nice day and watch TV all evening and then we unfold the big ole’ sofa-bed (queen-sized, it was) so she can hit the sack.

Make the bed, get everything all nice for a good night’s sleep, and, as she’s getting ready to climb into the sack…what does she do?

She opens her purse and pulls out a pistol! This, she sets on the TV table next to the bed.

No…

Kidding….

She was SO SCARED that even though she was at my house, with a German shepherd at her side, she felt she needed a gun.

I was just floored. 

No, she wasn’t putting me on. She really and truly was so frightened, of life the universe and all that, she needed a pistol at her side.

Trying to reassure her did nothing to help her to feel any braver. It just convinced her that I was crazy and not too bright.

****

A lot of women feel that way. I used to be scared to death all the time, too. That, as you might surmise, was the reason for the German shepherd room-mate.

Had something happened to her? Dunno. If it did, she never told me about it. But on the other hand, I’d never been seriously attacked (harassed, yes; but actually attacked, no), and I wasn’t scared witless in my own house. Scared: yes. That’s why we had the GerShep. But scared enough to be waving a pistol around? Not so much.

That German shepherd did earn her keep one night, after some poor wretch got into the house while she and her humans were sound asleep. Unfortunately for him, she did wake up…and got between him and the door he came in.

LOL! He found a door he could get out, just as the fangs were about to rip off his rear end. Last I heard he was still running.

It brings you around to the question of whether you really do need a gun in the house. And that question brings up a whole slew of other questions:

* Do you know how to use it?
* Would you use it? Really? On another human being?
* How are you going to recognize a false alarm? Hubby coming home late at night, for example. The teenagers roaming around in the wee hours….
* Can you (or can you not) get out of the house safely if some jerk comes in a door or window?
* What are you gonna do if you shoot some schmuck and kill him? How will you prove he didn’t belong in your house and you really didn’t know who he was? How DO you prove a negative, anyway?
* Wouldn’t you be better off just to close the bedroom door and lock it when you go to bed?

On and on.

I tend to feel that keeping a gun at hand every night is probably a bad idea. Definitely a bad idea if you have kids in the house.

Do I feel safe alone in the house here in lovely North Phoenix? Hell, no! It’s a dangerous area, no question of that.

But EVERY place where humans live is a dangerous area. So you can’t get too paranoid over your own neighborhood. Nor can you barricade yourself in the bedroom every night, armed to the teeth with pistols and shotguns. That just doesn’t make sense…and serves only to scare you more.

My own guess is that your best defense is an alarm system: whether the kind that runs on batteries or the type that runs on four feet. If someone’s around, you want to know it in time to get out, or at least to barricade yourself inside the bathroom. A phone in every room, including the bathrooms, is de rigueur.

***

I’ve lived most of my life now, and lived it with few truly dangerous incidents. I’m not a pretty young girl anymore (thank Gawd). With my boobs lobbed off, that’s one fewer attraction.

But that was true of my mother…well…she still had boobs, but she also had lots of wrinkles and stank to high heaven of tobacco smoke. And she was scared half to death: alll the time. As for me: well… Dude! Make my day!

Seriously: I don’t feel especially scared. I don’t recklessly put myself in situations where I might be at risk. But neither do I forget that there is NO situation where a woman is not at some risk. 

Gosh!

LOL! As dawn cracks, WordPress is bloody well NOT ABOUT to let me into Funny about Money. The system is set up to recognize me, and so I haven’t had to memorize the password…and I’ll be damned if I can find a clue to it. Usually I tape the things to the computer’s case, but this one…apparently not.

/eyeroll/  /exclamation point/

Well. For unknown reasons, the thing changed its mind. NOOOO idea why, but now it has let me in.  So let us scribble as fast as we can scribble, because for all we know this may be the world’s last FaM post.

Sick as a dawg. My son is also too sick to drag me out to the Mayo, wherein reside our quacks. It looks suspiciously like we are, coincidentally, both enjoying the Family Disease — diabetes. He’s much sicker than I am, for the nonce, though presumably this thing will also get worse for me, since it has started back up later.

Before there was such a thing as insulin, relatives of my mother croaked over from this disease. That’s how she got to California: the New York grandparents, who had her custody, died or became too overwhelmed to care for a kid, so she was shipped off to the famously roguish California relatives.

I expect M’hijito and I will survive it, at least for a few years, but only by dint of jabbing ourselves with shots every time we turn around.

What fun, eh?

Being twice my son’s age, I personally am ready to shuffle off this mortal coil — although I would prefer to do so with a minimum of pain and suffering. That doesn’t look like a likely prospect…ohhhh well!

And speaking of x as y, it’s colder than a by-gawd out there. Well…for Arizona it is. 😀 A bone-chilling 52 degrees.

This morning I’ll have to trek around — on foot, through the cold, since those bastards at the Mayo Clinic have decommissioned my driver’s license and my son has confiscated my car — to try to find a nearby doc who can test me for diabetes, thereby confirming my suspicion. If I’m right, at least maybe they can offer some treatment to ease the crazy-making symptoms.

If not…well…  I’m 80 years old: past time to go. So I don’t expect I’ll object too much to whatever I have to do to accelerate that process.

Can you imagine being that superannuated? Who would guess I’d ever reach this ripe old age?!?

LOL! I don’t expect it’s that huge a surprise, though. Women in my family who survived childbirth and cancer have lived well into their 90s. In fact…I believe my great-grandmother and her strait-laced daughter (that one decidedly not my grandmother…) were both 98 when they died.

On the other hand, those two women lived on the side of a steep hill in Berkeley, California. To get to the grocery store or to the stop where the aunt caught the train to her job in San Francisco, they had to walk up that hill. So that meant they got steady, regular exercise almost every day.

We do have some hills I could perambulate — but they’re in the Phoenix Mountain Park. After a couple of hair-raising experiences with some very shady, very scary sh!theads out there, I will NOT go on those trails by myself anymore. Used to hike there almost every day, but now I just don’t feel safe up there alone. And…who do you know who wants to spend two hours a day driving to and hiking around the local mountain park with some old bat?

So Ruby and I walk around the neighborhood, which unfortunately is 100 percent on the flat. That’s better than nothing, I guess…but frankly, I doubt if it’s adding more than about 6 hours to my total lifespan.

***

rrrroooaaarrr rrrrr rrrr roooaarrr roar roar…

NOW what?

Hmmmm… Appears to be the merry song of a weed-whacker. Check out front: no sign of Gerardo and the boys.

What a racket! Not even eight in the morning…grrrrrr!

Oh well. Just be glad you don’t have to make your living running a weed-whacker, eh? In the cold. Just as the sun is rising.

Actually, SDXB used to spring to life at exactly that time: sunrise. But…it was back when he lived here in the ‘Hood. Now he’s out in Sun City — assuming he’s still living. When last heard from, he was on his last paws.

Google him…and you can’t find a mention of the guy. His relatives must have contrived to take any links to him off the Internet — one presumes so, because a search for his name used to bring up a whole slew of links. He was a multi-award-winning investigative reporter…so his name was all over the regional publications and even in some national ones.

Stupid stuff, eh?

Y’know, the houses here in the ‘Hood were built by the same developer who built out Sun City. And my parents took up residence in that balmy burg, after my father retired. That’s how I ended up in lovely Arizona: my father dragged me here a year before I graduated from high school and dropped me in the University of Arizona. He thought the idea of a whole community where kids were not allowed was the most brilliant concept ever designed by the human brain.

No. He did NOT like kids. Never did figure out how my mother managed to persuade him to let her have me. Whatever: no more urchins were allowed in that household.

Anyway: it’s almost weird how much these houses look like Sun City houses. The neighborhood itself, in its overall design, is different from S.C., but the dinky little houses are very much like the little slump-block shacks out there. Oh, waitaminit, though: we have actual garages here. In S.C., you got a one-car carport, and that was it. 

Because after all, what retired couple needs more than one car, eh? And what burglar would be bothered with ripping off old people, eh?

Actually, the burglars loved the carports. The idiot developer installed an opening to the attic in the ceiling over the carport. Very convenient! If you were a burglar, you’d come along after everyone had turned off their lights, climb up on the car’s roof, slide open the attic entrance, and climb on in. Once inside, you’d wend your way over the beams to the area of the living room or kitchen, saw a hole in the ceiling drywall, and drop down into the house!

And voilà! While the superannuated residents snoozed, you’d make yourself to home. And make off with all the money and jewelry you could find.

LOL! The flimsy, stupidly designed construction is one of about a jillion reasons you couldn’t pay me to live out there.

She said: living in a flimsy, stupidly designed house, eh?

Well…, the construction quality here is notably better. Houses are sturdily built. Garages have actual doors, things that you can close and lock. Alleys run behind the rows of houses, providing a place to put your garbage where the city can pick it up. Backyards are surrounded by six- to eight-foot concrete block walls, making it harder for the burglars to come in the back door. (In Sun City: no walls for the likes of you, chucklehead! If any fences exist, they’re low wire numbers designed to keep your Chihuahua in.)

We’re still in a tract of look-alike houses, but…at least they’re better built houses.

Welp…speaking of our garden spot, I’d better get off my duff and take the Hound for a walk, before it gets much later. And so…arf!! awayyy!

Thank You, Good Realtor!!!

Y’know, my good Realtor Friend, a guy named John Shackleford, did me one of the greatest favors anyone ever did for me: by bringing me to this house, in this neighborhood.

What a lovely, peaceful, pretty place to live!

Ruby and I just got back from one of our circumnavigations of the ‘Hood. And oh, my! What a pretty day.

The park: brilliant emerald green in the spring sunshine. The weather; insanely beautiful. The kids: playing magnificently in the park, kicking  balls and chasing around. The dogs: handsomely trotting along  beside their humans. The sky, delicately painted with fine, thin white clouds against a deep blue background. The birds: singing and flying around in avian joy.

What more could you possibly want, eh?

Just now, I can’t think of much.

It really is a beautiful, upper-middle-class North Central Phoenix neighborhood. Just about anything you want or need is within easy walking distance — as I’ve discovered to my amazement, now that my son has kiped my car.

Yes, it’s true: living here, I actually don’t need a car! Get rid of the chariot, and come to find out you have, within easy walking distance,

  • 3 top-flight grocery stores
  • a veterinarian
  • a computer store
  • a bookstore/computer software store
  • a hair stylist
  • a doctor (of sorts)
  • a magnificently stocked drugstore
  • 3 pharmacies
  • 2 major urban hospitals with top-rated emergency rooms
  • a fine young lawyer

One could go on and on…but basically, the message is, you can get about 95% of the goods and services you need without ever setting foot in a gasoline-powered vehicle. 

Y’know, this characteristic of the neighborhood never fully dawned on me until after my son kiped my car. I mean…well, of course I knew all these places were here. But until the car disappeared from my garage, it never really registered with me that I didn’t need to drive to these places!

Seriously: in the summertime, get going early enough and you can do your errands before the heat comes up. Raining? Call an Uber…like, the one whose owner lives straight across the streeet. (Turns out a half-dozen Uber drivers live right here in the Hood!)

It’s every bit as good as San Francisco in that way. When my mother and I lived there, back in the Dark Ages of the late 1950s and early 60s, we did have a car. But we never used it unless my mother and I had to drive across the Bay to pick up my father when his ship came in. (He was a Merchant Marine pilot.) I’d guess we never turned on the ignition more than twice a month.

And now, between Uber and just about every daily need within easy walking distance, I find myself in the same situation. I don’t really need a car! 

Mwa ha ha!!!

My son has it in his garage. And frankly, he can have the damn thing. I may sign over the registration to him, next time I have to pay for it.